Social media doesn’t have to be a sordid blast to the past
Toxic relationships come in many forms: exes who don’t let up, frenemies who bring nothing but negativity, and even the occasional crazy randoms who have the ability to stick around for as long as they do because technology makes it so easy.
Social media has allowed us to stay connected forever, regardless of our desire to do so. Does that mean we have to fall trap to carrying on connections that we really shouldn’t?
This goes to any length. Maybe it’s constantly seeing images of someone that brings nothing but unfavorable feelings. Or it’s even someone continuously contacting you who you don’t want to hear from. Either way, it’s a negative component in your life and it persists. Why let it?
People are plagued by the fear of deleting and letting go: How does it look? Is it socially unacceptable? Is it drama? Because of this, problematic connections stay in place and enable a negative cycle to continue. What we fail to realize is that it’s okay to cut people out of our lives. In fact, you should if it’s negatively impacting you. Just like you move on from jobs and relationships fade out, it’s okay to sever an electronic connection.
Einstein defined insanity as “doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” If something bothers you, then change it! Take it from the genius himself. Remaining in contact out of obligation is not a reason to do so. Hit that delete button. Block someone if they are continuously berating you. Do. It. Please.
Think about it this way, if someone was repeatedly ringing your doorbell asking for your attention, would you continue to let him or her do so? If your ex kept showing up at your place to work, would you consider it stalking? Spamming your phone with texts and phone calls in our technological world isn’t so different. In fact it is stalking and harassment.
So delete. Unfollow. Block. Then move on.
You’ll be better for it. You owe yourself a lot more than the girl who used to bully you in high school.